What if Rejection was a Good Thing?

Here is a question God has been stirring in my heart lately:  What if rejection was a good thing?


I have had my share of rejection in my life and it hurts to the core of my being. It feels like someone punching you in the stomach.  I’m sure you can relate because at some point in everyone’s life you experience rejection.

I remember years ago being rejected by some close friends that my family hung out with from church.  Now these weren’t just friends we hung out from time to time but we watched each others kids, had parties together and weekend gatherings.

But something changed all of sudden.

As our friends were planning a trip on a cruise, we found out that no one told us about it so we just thought they forgot and we ended up signing up to go on the same cruise.

As the time arrived to ship off to sea, we found out that our close friends didn’t want us to come because they needed time away from us – meaning me.

It hurt to the core.  I remember my husband upset at night not understanding the rejection and I kept reassuring him that it wasn’t him but me they didn’t like anymore.

My reaction was to fix it by finding out what I did wrong and what I could do to rectify the issue.

But there was nothing I could do.  My husband and I went on the cruise and we choose to enjoy each other with or without them.  We made the best of it.

So is rejection a good thing? 

Well the Lord used that experience in my life and others like it to teach me that my worth, my identity is not in this world or in others.  It’s in Christ Jesus!

So much of my worth and identity was based on how others thought of me.  Therefore God had to set me aside or allow me to experience a separation (rejection) to reset or refresh my soul toward Him and Him only.

In the Old Testament, while the Israelites were traveling through the wilderness, if they sinned, began ill, had skin disease even their monthly cycle they would be separated from the camp for a time to heal then return back to camp.

This wasn’t necessarily a bad thing but actually a protection for them and others in the camp.

I too can see that my experience of rejection was God’s protection – from myself, from being hurt again, and from the idol I had created.

So again I ask, can rejection be a good thing?

Well, a recent experience, now this time with my oldest daughter, brought up feelings I hadn’t had in a while –  feelings of anger, hurt and disgust over my daughter now being rejected by close friends at church.

Oh Lord, why am I feeling this way?  I don’t want to hate these people!  Why is this happening again?

He answered me by reminding me that my daughter is His daughter first and He is doing a work in her.

Wow as a mom it’s hard to watch your daughter go through hard times but I’m reminded that God doesn’t care about our comfort but our character.  He is shaping her character and allowing those experiences to draw her closer to Himself.

So I would say rejection is a good thing!!!

I mean Jesus was rejected like a million times over.  He represented the stone they set aside when building the temple because they weren’t sure how it fit which was actually the cornerstone or capstone which held the whole thing together.

“The stone that the builders rejected
    has now become the cornerstone.
23 This is the Lord’s doing,
    and it is wonderful to see.
24 This is the day the Lord has made.
    We will rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:22-24

I believe God takes us through seasons where we experience being set aside to reset our hearts and minds for our next assignment.

We may not be ready for what’s to come yet so God desires to do a good work in us so we are prepared for what’s to come.

I’m experiencing this in my life right now and it’s ok.  I’ve been here before and the fruit that comes from this time is so sweet.

Here is the coolest thing ever:  God will never reject you!!  He may allow it from time to time by others but not from Him.

“However, those the Father has given me will come to me, and I will never reject them.” John 6: 37

Do you recall a time that you felt rejected, left out or push aside? How did you deal with it?  What fruit was produced from this experience.

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